Yay, B and I are officially man and wife! We actually got married close to a month ago, and I’m just now getting around to sharing the news. Thankfully, the Seattle rains stayed away until the day after our outdoor ceremony and reception, phew. All told, I spent a total of $1582 on wedding-related expenses. The big ticket items were the dress, plane tickets to Seattle, the rental car, and the hotel for our wedding night. My amazing in-laws let us use their backyard for the ceremony and reception and took care of all the food and decorations.
B and I are extremely pleased with how everything turned out. Will I have regrets about not having a bigger, more traditional wedding? Probably not. Plus, regret is something that doesn’t hit you until much later, right? Ha, ha. We had 31 guests and doing the thank you cards were a cinch. I got them all done in one day!
Now on to the fun stuff, changing my last name. This is a personal decision, and I know people have differing opinions. I have a last name that is often mispronounced. One of the reasons for taking B’s name is practicality. I’m tired of having to spell out my name every time I speak to someone over the phone. I also feel that having the same last name makes us even more of a family unit. I still think it’s a little unfair that the woman is expected to take the man’s last name, but we live in a patriarchal society and that’s just what’s expected. Neither of us are fans of hyphenating so we squashed that quickly. B could theoretically take my name but we’re just not that avant-garde, and we’re not ready to deal with all the raucous that would cause. Plus, my name comes from my dad, my grandfather, my great-grandfather et cetera so it doesn’t escape the cycle of taking a man’s last name.
Anywho, that wasn’t meant to be a social discourse on names/culture/identity, just explaining my thought process on changing my name. Logistically, it’s not a hard thing to do. It’s just a lot of leg work. Since we got married in Seattle and live in Vegas, we went to the recorder’s office and bought a ton of copies of our marriage certificate so we don’t have to wait for them in the mail. After that, my first stop was the social security office. I showed them a copy of the certificate and just like that, my name was changed.
After that, I went to the DMV and the bank and again, I had no troubles. These places were easy enough because they had physical offices I could visit in person. What’s giving me the most trouble are the various frequent flyer and hotel programs I belong to. They all have different rules. Some allow you to change your name online (US Airways), some just require a phone call (Alaska Air), others require a mailed written request along with supporting documentation (American Airlines, Southwest Airlines), some require two pieces of documentation (Starwood Preferred, Frontier Airlines), while some are extremely cautious and require notarization (I’m talking about you United Airlines).
In the grand scheme of things, it’s not difficult to do and it just takes some organization and time. Now I need to kick it into high gear and seriously start looking for jobs. Eek.